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Cages of the Mind

 

Let me tell you a story about a rabbit.

Always I’ve loved rabbits. Whenever I get one, out goes the cage and in-comes the house training. Years ago, I acquired Rose. A middle-aged huge white rabbit who had lived its entire life in a cage. So, being true to form, the first thing I did was put the cage in the back hall. Then lifting Rose gently out, placed her on the kitchen floor. Encouraging exploration and giving her free rein.

What did Rose do?Read More

The Energy of Easy vs Hard

Often in my work I hear “I could never do that. It’s way too hard.” “Is it easy?” “Why is it so hard?” Which prompts my question “Why do we shy away from what we think will be difficult?” 

What is the energy of Easy vs Hard? Let’s break it down.

As habitual beings, when we repeat an action enough times it eventually slips into the subconscious. Becoming routine we no longer having to think about what we are doing. We just do it. For example take learning how to drive. In the beginning very challenging. As any new skill requires our full attention. But then one day you find yourself driving and thinking about something totally different. Gone is the inner dialog, “Check the mirror.” “Shift. Shift now!!” “Give the bike a wide birth.” It’s become a habit. Becoming automatic the energy then changes from difficult too easy.Read More

The Lesson of the Chestnut Tree

A squirrel and myself shared a thought this morning. There he is was waiting on a gravestone with a chestnut in his mouth. Catching his eye I stopped to say hello. Standing just a few feet apart, telepathically our exchange lasted a number of seconds.

As I returned to my jog questions arose.

“How does he get the chestnut out of its casing?”

“Does he have to open the prickly outer shell?’

As if in response, I was suddenly aware of all the fallen chestnuts on my path. While I noticed some open and empty, others remained closed, holding tight to their prize. But then I found my answer as my eye was drawn to a beautifully displayed open husk cradling a chestnut in-waiting. Read More

Roof Tops and Chimney Pots

This morning while jogging in the city I found myself mesmerised by rooftops and chimneys pots. Studying the variety of shapes and colours reminded me how I was first taught to draw.

“Focus on the negative space and draw the line where the negative hits the positive.”  

It’s amazing, as just by drawing the shape of the negative, the foreground easily appears. Now as I jog I imagine drawing that line and as I do?Read More

Shaking off the Dust

It’s amazing how the simplest of decisions can make a huge change to your current mindset. Like most of us, I too am getting a bit tired of the four walls of COVID. I work from home and with my husband needing to shield I have curtailed my life outside. On top of that, unable to exercise due to a hip issue for the last three weeks the walls were closing in. Ohh.. did I mention the continuous rain?

Anyway (not to moan but to set the scene) last Sunday my husband asked if I would like to go for a walk in the woods. Although feeling better it was one of those questions which weighed equally. I could go but it was still raining. Or I could stay home… Read More

The Energy of Anticipation

Last week I received my first ever published book. Arriving in a simple brown box, it sat waiting to be opened. But I was in no hurry for its reveal. Why? Because I didn’t want to loose what I was feeling. Knowing it was expected, I awoke full of the glorious ‘bubbleness’ of anticipation. I didn’t want to open the box not because I wasn’t excited to see the finished article. But I didn’t want this feeling of overflowing joy to stop.

Do you remember that feeling? The younger you jumping up and down. Full of nervous excitement as you waited for Christmas or your birthday. Excitement so intense it had you ‘bouncing off walls’.

That day I was so moved, literally. Like a young child I jumped up and down while my ear to ear grin felt like a permanent fixture. Every cell charged with aliveness. I guess that is what I didn’t want to loose – my life force on charge.

What-ever happen to anticipation? Is it only for children? A feeling we outgrow as we put on the shoes of responsibility? Or is still within us. Perhaps it is not that it has moved away from us but we have moved away from it.

Living in an ever-ready world has its downfall. We have grown so used to instant gratification. Need something? Anything? Size, shape colour? Grab the laptop let your fingers do the shopping. Why pro-long the wait when there is the choice of a 24 hour arrival.

Have a desire? It’s yours. Easy peasy. No time wasted or effort spent. But at what cost?

Do you remember saving your pocket money? So excited as you got closer and closer getting what you really, really wanted? There was something so delicious in the waiting. Which I guess is why I had such a quandary about opening the box. I knew that the next feeling would replace my present one.

Eventually, I did open the box and my Heart burst with joy. A feeling equally as intense. All in all, it was an amazing day in which I will never forget and am so thankful I connected back into that ‘bubblicious’ feeling. A feeling so encompassing I couldn’t have contained it I wanted it to.

I have to wonder if we in our digital age having acquired so much we have equally lost. Everything is energy and energy must move. As we ride the energy of anticipation and the joy of waiting it is a good reminder to hold back. Don’t just grab because you can. Let time pass. Learn to wait. Take your time. Knowing that what you have been so looking forward will soon arrive. Why not loose a bit of the instant and reconnect into the dream. The wanting and the waiting. All energy has it place and Anticipation? It is the super-charger for joy. Something we really don’t want to do without.

COVID19 – Surviving the Great Spin

I had a vision the other day.  Due to COVID19 I saw all of humanity caught in an intense spin cycle. Going round and round with no end insight. My vision explained the sadness I was feeling. I felt bereft. Having lost the patterns of the recent past and as yet could not grab hold what the future will be. Bouncing off the drum I yearned for the simplicity of what was. To be able to just do as I did. No need for social distancing, constant washing of hands, donning the mask, curtailing social interaction or  changing the way I work. Yes, I am tiring of COVID 19 and wish this cycle would stop.

With my vision came the insight of choice.

I could feed into my frustration and cause more discomfort. Or accept that for awhile the dust of this pandemic has yet to settle. So how do we best work within this whirlwind of uncertainty?

Surviving the Great Spin – Things to keep in mind

Remember it is not just about you. We are spinning. Which makes it difficult to know what is happening right around us. There will be times when frustration and confusion bubble to the surface. Rather than take it personally, recognise that COVID 19 is affecting all. Just as you may struggle with change, uncertainty, fear so too are others. Be kind to one another. 

What was, is no longer as it was. To stick your head in the sand is not going to work. The sand will just shift around your head. Roll with the punches. Ask yourself, “How can I best manage?” Taking a more active roll.

Humanity is going through a major shift. Not only is everything chopping and changing on a daily basis but there is also great change going on within us. And like the outside world we can only catch a glimpse. We do not know how COVID19 ultimately will affect both the world around and the world within.

Focus has shifted. Due to lock down, furlough, working from home, shielding, city streets empty. Activity ceases. For many work, socialising, activity distracts us from us. But suddenly, this spin cycle has turned a spotlight on the inside. Making the mind more active. Thoughts whirl, emotions rise and fall. This is also part of this great Awakening. Get to know yourself. Understand and discover the you of you.

We are more emotional. Remember that spotlight? Learn to manage feelings. For like waves on a beach they come in and go out. Their purpose like a barometer tells you what is happening around you. Rather than fuel them with our thoughts accept how you feel, learn from them and let them go. Just as I did by acknowledging the sadness of this situation.

Embrace change. What changes can you make within this greater change? Rather than fear the shifting tides take charge of what you can do. Being proactive helps offset the frustration of what you can’t do.

Reach out to others. Make an effort to connect. Through a letter, a phone-call, listening ear, a good deed, an offer of support. While social distancing closes door to the physical, reaching out to another opens the door of the Heart. A touched Heart bridges all separation.

Of one thing I am certain – everything changes. This reassures me that this cycle will stop. All will settle. In its’ process we may end up battered and a bit bruised. Needing to pick ourselves up and reclaim solid ground once again. Or like a rough gem stone bouncing about in its’ tumbler emerge devoid of our rough edges. Shining that bit brighter. Always the choice is up to us.

Forming a Habit – 7 Key Ingredients

Time to get back on the ‘horse”. Due to a back niggle for the last month I’ve had to forgo my morning jog. Those in the know say it takes 21 days to form a new habit and as well, to break one. Well, its been 4 weeks (not 3) with the new habit of not jogging every morning starting to take hold. As I dust off my sneakers I know today is the day. So, how do I motivate myself?Read More

The Seven Gifts of Struggle

Listener’s Question – “Why do we struggle to gain strength?’

On this weeks radio show ‘The Cindy Hurn Show’ my listeners questioned the value of struggle. “Why do we have to do it?” “What do we gain?” “Can we not just stop going through hard things? Stop midway and move onto something else?”

At present, with the challenges of COVID19, many are struggling. The ground shifts below us. Uncertainty and fear grow as future security is in question. I feel like we are in one of those snow globes. The powers that be have picked it up and are giving it a good ole’ shake. The  problem is it has as yet to be put back down so we can appreciate the beauty of change.

Struggle reminds us everything has a purpose.

What is the value of suffering?Read More

7 ways to Live Your Best Life

An old college friend sent me a message which really got me thinking. She wrote “I hope you are living your best life.” Struck by her thoughtfulness this question stayed in in my mind stirring deep reflections.

Live your best life, what does that mean? How do we do that? Is it about accomplishments, success and security in the world? Or much more on a personal level? What does it mean to me?Read More